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Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.
The widow(er) will make this decision for themselves, but the important thing is that you are about to discuss, respect and be comfortable with the amount of time they’ll need.
Is it common for widow(er)s to compare new dates to their former spouse?
I didn’t really feel ready to date until I had worked through the pain and feeling of loss.” “The best advice I have here is to ask the widowed person, “How can I be there for you?
If he or she feels comfortable talking about their deceased partner then you should feel free to ask questions or make comments. You should not compare yourself to the departed spouse. One has to remember, that a widowed person did not end the relationship because he/she wanted to – it was taken from them, and in this way is very different from that of a divorce.” Starting a completely new path in one’s life is a big decision and would cause emotional upheaval for anyone, no matter the situation.“The most common mistake I’ve seen is people getting upset that the widow/widower still has pictures of their departed loved on and not understanding that the relationship ended without consent on the part of both parties.”Judging the widow/widower on the length of time after the death before getting back into the dating game.